Fear the passion’s faded forever in your relationship? Here is how to get rid of the bad habits are killing your love life.
We think it’s the big issues that drive a wedge between couples – financial problems, infidelity our disagreements about how many children to have. But what I have discovered over the years is that it’s the accumulation of the little things that destroy love.
Whether its repeatedly working late because you think it’s more important to be financially secure than spending time with family to shouting at each other for help can ruin your love life. These habits may seem harmless but have the power to unravel even the strongest bonds. But be sure you can add that spark back into your love life.
Being right all the time
It’s really easy to spot when your partner is falling into trap. For example you cannot even mention a little problem like him throwing his socks in the corridor because your partner will fly off the handle and claim he was just about to pick them up. However, you are just as likely to be guilty yourself. When your partner points something out, how often do you have a ready –made excuse?
Break the habit: simply say you are sorry for the mess and clean it up. This is more empowering and feels good without any drama.
It could be staying on a computer or a phone while your partner is talking to you. This may seem simple but it sends out a message that what your partner is saying is less important. This is a far cry from when you fell in love and everything seemed to revolve around the two of you.
Break the habit: always be in the same room when you speak to each other. Shouting to each other from different rooms sounds more of a command rather than a request. Try not to talk from the door but walk to your partner and talk to him or her after they’ve noticed you. With this you will feel that your partner cares and has given you full attention.
Tip toeing on your partner
We all like to have peace in a home but then you also have your own opinion about everything. Do not shut up because this way you might shut out even the positive feelings including love.
Break the habit: start with the small things like how he sips his tea. Something like “would you mind drinking your tea more quietly.” You will be amazed at how soon you will be able to handle bigger things.
Putting children first
Children need a lot –especially when they are still babies. Even when they grow up, still everything seems to still revolve around them. Naturally we all want what is best for our off spring. However, you got married so you can spend lots of time together with meaningful conversations not how kids are doing or something about their homework. Have you been so busy being mum and dad that you’ve forgotten you are lovers?
Break the habit: put your partner number one in all you do. Remember the kids are just passing through and your marriage will last forever.