We can all work harder to make our relationships better and stronger, whether you’re in the throes of new love, have been married for twenty years, or are single at forty. A relationship MOT is a chance to deeply explore the role of love in your life. For those uninitiated to the term, a MOT test checks that your vehicle meets road safety and environmental standards.
Would you drive your car year after year without an oil-check? Would you avoid the annual MOT? You’ve probably answered ‘No’ to both. So why do we expect our relationships to chug along for years, until they fall apart?
The MOT test helps you to arrest those problematic areas before they get out of hand saving you energy and heartache. While doing your MOT, you need to focus on your children, partner, friends and extended family. Ask questions like what makes this relationship good? If things aren’t going so well at the moment, think back to when they were. What were you doing right then that you are not doing now?
What are you unhappy about? What should you do less or more? Whether you are working through a particular conflict or crisis, or are just keen to shake up some of the ingrained habits we all fall into, a meaningful conversation can help to create stronger bonds between you, and take your relationship to a new level of trust and intimacy.
Re-negotiating your partnership is sometimes vital. After the first flush of being a couple, it’s easy to lose sight of what you both want out of your relationship, especially when children come into the picture.
If you are single, focus on the role of love in your life now and consider the way we relate to the people around us. Whether you are newly single, or have never had a satisfactory relationship, explore the habits and patterns and address any areas where you should make a changes and make a clear plan on how to do it.
Write down your thoughts because seeing everything on a piece of paper gives you clarity.