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Signs That Show Your Man Is Playing You

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Although being played may leave you feeling like a fool, it is in no way indicative of your intelligence or level of experience. Usually it is combination of what you are willing to believe and how believable the player really is.  At one point or another we have all lain in bed and tried to think of excuses for our men’s troubling misbehavior. Unwilling to leave our comfort zones we have lived in denial for years waiting for a man we knew would never commit to commit. These are the signs we all notice and try to ignore because we don’t want to deal with the reality of being played. If you are still comfortably living in denial here is a wakeup call; if your man does any of the following wise up sister you are being played.

He interacts with his phone more than you

If you’ve been in this relationship for a while and the guy hides his phone from you (or he just recently started this little trick), then there’s a good chance you’re being played. Also, if he’s constantly checking his phone when you’re out together, or leaving quickly after receiving a text, you’re being played. If he seems much more absorbed in his text conversations than he is with the events of your day then chances are you are being played. Even worse if he’s always smiling whenever he opens a new text, then he is obviously flirting with other women.

He is always vague

If a guy never tells you that he loves you then you are definitely being played.  If he tells you that he likes you somehow, run as fast as you can because somehow feelings won’t increase, so don’t expect this guy to fall head over heels for you. A man who dodges any long term plans (later in the evening, next month)  is obviously bidding his time till he meets someone else or already has someone else more important than you with whom his plans must sync.

He is not  interested in  your friends

We all know the excitement of new love. You want to show off your boo to all your friends and frenemies and you are eager to meet theirs;  if he doesn’t feel the need to meet your support system, he clearly doesn’t see you being in his life for very long. He doesn’t care about building relationships with your friends because he doesn’t feel committed to you. A genuine guy will care about the things that are important to you. A player only cares about the things that matter to him.

You only see him at his convenience

Another good way to tell if you’re being played is to pay attention to a man’s agenda. If he has never taken you out on a real date and always claims that he likes to be home with you then there is something fishy going on.  Does he claim to work all hours or does he cancel dates last minute? If he never takes you anywhere it means your relationship isn’t going anywhere too. Another sure sign you’re being played is that your man jumps right out of bed and heads off after you’ve slept together. No cuddling, no future plans being made…he’s just done and gone. It’s a really bad sign, indeed.

He always texts

You have seen him call many other people but he never calls you. If he can’t even be bothered to pick up the phone, think about what this says about him. A real man will take the time to call you because he wants to hear the sound of your voice and have a real, meaningful discussion about your day. He doesn’t need to call you all the time, but if he refuses to ever call? He’s no good.

He never acknowledges you in public

Any guy who refuses to acknowledge your relationship anywhere other than in private is sending you a message that you are refusing to understand. When you’re out with your man, does he introduce you as his girlfriend? Have you noticed he either introduces you as his “friend” or simply by your first name? If he’s not calling you his girlfriend, you’re not his girlfriend. He doesn’t want people around him to get the wrong idea and think he’s off the market. He’s not your boyfriend if he won’t even hold your hand when you’re walking down the street. His body language speaks louder than his words. If he’s fidgety or avoiding eye contact with you, something is up. Try to see if he’s physically uncomfortable with any form of PDA. Only a player isn’t into showing his girl love.

He’s a well-known player

As Maya Angelou once said, if someone shows you who they are, believe them. If your man has a reputation of playing women, then chances are he is playing you too. If people who know him well are telling you he’s bad news, it’s probably because he is. They aren’t feeding you this information because they’re “jealous.” They want you to be happy. Believe them.