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The More The Merrier: Types Of Friends Every Woman Needs


As many of us age and take on greater work and personal responsibilities, it’s only natural that our circle of friends tightens and becomes more exclusive. The problem with this is that we might find ourselves alone at a point when we need friends the most and the possibilities of making new ones are slim. Research suggests that every woman should have at least a tight core group of two to four gal pals. The women we surround ourselves with impact our happiness many different ways, at different times in our lives.  These are the gal pals each woman should have in her circle.

The success story

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This friend knows the realities of perseverance and endurance. She balances a successful career and family with enviable ease. She’s the friend you go to for a reality check when you’re feeling particularly doubtful. Even though you might have to schedule your dates well in advance, she always provides you her undivided attention while you both hash out the pros and cons of your life’s next chapter. She may be married to her career, but her commitment to success in all of her relationships helps you feel empowered.

The donor

The 40-40 pals

The 40-40 pals

This is the one person who constantly attends charity events and encourages you to give back to the community. She gives more to nurturing the growth of her community than anyone you know. She reminds you to stop and think about how your choices can make the days better for you and someone else. Her values are inspiring; they encourage you to be reflective and to give back to those who need it.

The classy one


Everyone should have the stylish friend who loves and lives the high life; the one who can be relied on to know all the swanky places and throw ultra-luxurious parties. This is the friend you turn to when you need to blow off steam — the good, the bad and drink yourself silly.  She is the one who will deck you up in the latest outfits and get you into exclusive clubs. She reminds you to not take life so seriously; that if you’re not having fun, then it isn’t worth doing. You know that you’ve both tasted the high life but have also endured through the trials and tribulations that life has to offer.

The dreamer


Although her feet are on the ground she lives with her head in the clouds. She believes in all the impossibilities of life. This is the one friend you can tell your wildest dreams confidently knowing that she will understand. She motivates you and inspires you to pursue your dreams no matter how bizarre they seem.   Finding the motivation to be creative is one of the best opportunities you can experience and finding someone who can support that is priceless. A friend who enlightens you to art, music and the more exotic ways of the world is a good thing. She encourages you to find harmony and opens the door to the possibility of experience.

The homebody


She’s the one you visit when you are craving properly made Matooke and Luwombo.  Her home is full of herbs, flowers and fresh fruit. She comes alive when she talks about cleaning kitchen cabinets and paint patterns. Whether it’s a new recipe, or new furniture everything she does is with a purpose and resourcefulness that inspires you to gain the same motivation in your own projects. Her passion and attention to detail motivates you to try and find your happiness in your own calling.

The health freak


She’s the one friend you know who carries a yoga mat everywhere and is faithful to her gym. She treats her body like a holy temple. She is always updating you on the latest health fads and encourages you to understand how your daily choices impact your body and long term health. She acts as the reminder that you can make better choices that are easy, impactful and lead to a fulfilling and disciplined lifestyle whether it’s trying out a new diet, scheduling a massage or just taking some extra time for you.