Broken heart

We all dream of finding the ONE and living happily ever after.  As we get in and out of relationships, we begin to think that maybe love is nothing but a fallacy.  The most puzzling question for the broken hearted is “How is it possible for someone to be in love today, only to fall out of love tomorrow?” it is very difficult for a woman to believe that their relationships end because the other person falls out of love. We want to believe that true love lasts forever just like in romantic novels and movies.  But the truth is men, God bless their hearts are fickle and relationships are flimsy. They fall in and out of love faster than you can imagine.  Of course there are millions of reasons that make men leave the women they have professed to love till kingdom come and here the most basic ones.   


A clingy woman is a woman who is in constant need of her man’s presence. She keeps texting and calling when he is not around. She wants to accompany him wherever he is going. She cancels her plans for him and expects him to do the same for her. Additionally, she is constantly impatient. Clinginess is also tied to mental and emotional neediness as well. Being too attached, too clingy and too needy shows a man that his woman is insecure. Men think that a woman who keeps breathing down her partner’s neck is a woman who literally has no life but him. When we think it’s cute, men think it’s a turn off. Revolving our life around our man will only make us lose him. Space is pivotal. We should have our own life, our own plans and maintain our personal independence without expecting our man to always be there.

 Too much drama

Our man chose us because we were happy and fun to be around. Men love women who know how to keep their own happiness in check and who display patterns of positivity. With time, if we tend to overanalyze and overthink, and turn almost everything into a problem, our man will see us as a problematic drama. When he tells us to stop being dramatic, we don’t believe him and continue to sabotage our relationship. When women are consistently dramatic, men will associate them with negativity. It’s not wrong to be emotional, but it is a red flag to be overly sensitive and dramatic all the time. Men don’t know how to deal with dramatic emotions. The relationship is already perceived as an important responsibility for a man. However, if we keep on maintaining drama, our man will feel as if he has three responsibilities to take care of—his, the relationship and our happiness.


Almost every man’s self-confidence is quite flimsy. Even though most men don’t admit it, they fear love because they fear failure. This is due to the pressure society had placed on men. They should work, make money, build a successful future, man up and take care of their families. Too many responsibilities have been placed on them. Hence, not feeling appreciated or getting these vibes is a big failure to a man. The biggest mistake women make in relationships is making men feel guilty and blaming their unhappiness on them. With time, the man will feel like a big failure if he can’t make his woman happy and satisfied. Women should appreciate the smallest gestures and affirm their manhood. Letting them know they are succeeding in the relationship is pivotal for the relationship’s growth.


Do you remember how it used to be in the beginning with the love texts and romantic gestures? A man likes to feel loved. We usually underestimate the importance of a man’s feelings. We think he has no feelings but he has plenty. Emotional needs for a man are as important as physical needs. We can’t expect a man to meet our needs if we don’t meet theirs—it’s as simple as this. Sexual fulfillment, support and admiration are the basic needs for a man.

Tying him down

Most men fear commitment because they fear being tied down. They fear having to stop meeting up with the guys, watching football games and having plenty of beers. Every man has his own perspective about personal space. If he lost his personal time to a woman, the woman will lose him. Some women invade their man’s personal freedom and space. When they do, he will feel as if he has been placed in a cage that he can’t escape. All we have to do is respect his needs so we don’t push him away. Always remember to give men space, admiration, positivity and self-independence.